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Review: Miss STILL
Assalaamu Alaykum
I would have to agree about the Islam and marriage portion, the whole friendship thing really kind of contradicts the purpose of the website. Not to say that some genuine relationships haven't come out of this, and Allah knows best. And not to make any broad sweeping statements about the website because I know that there are some brothers and sisters who are on the website with Halal intentions, but when you really case the website it just seems like a place for people who all have things their trying to hide or have wronged themselves really bad. I know that sounds bad but if you really look at the website, most the women don't have hijab, most the brothers have no beard, and the killing part is the people who openly admit they drink. For one we are not suppose to disclose our sins especially for the whole world to see.
And the portion about mixing with Kafr's is def. wrong. You become like the company that you keep, and there is a big difference between that and giving Dawaa. This is suppose to be a matrimonial website for Muslims, how is it relevant to non-muslims then? Providing a service like this is based on the assumption that brothers and sisters are sticking to the sunnah, but there is no intermediary of any kind. I speak from experience because I had all the Halal intentions in the world. I have never been married, no kids, been muslim for 4 yrs, only 26, working, going to school, all that good stuff. I met a woman who, if you have some kind of database to track old members her name is Teresa or Yaqin Abdullah and she is 38 or 39, or so she said, and in cleveland, Ohio. I paid for my membership and after 2 weeks she contacted me and we hit it off. She has 3 kids and seemed like she was striving for Allah. We spoke for a month or so and decided to get engaged. This all took place over several months, we decided to get married and I sent her the money for a plane ticket as a man should provide for the woman, and we planned to move together and the whole bit. But to make a long story short in the end it ended up coming out that she committed adultery with some so called brother who is in prison now, while she was married to her husband. And then at the last second she decided we shouldn't get married and ran off with my $400. It's not about the money, the last thing I'm trippin about is a little $400. And I will get that back from Allah. But it's too easy to set a profile up on this website and the people with genuine intentions will get stung by con-artists like her. Don't let her back on this website.
And you really should consider tightening up shop before somebody like a lawyer gets on here and sues your pants off. But inshallah this site is set up for brothers and sisters to actually get married and not just to make money, and inshallah Allah will reward you. But it needs to be better. And if this makes you delete my profile ( Rahiem Martin in Cedar Rapids, IA), then cheers because I haven't had anything but horrible experiences.