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Don't waste your money....

I foolishly joined Marital Affair earlier this year and quickly discovered that there are virtually no real or currently active women on the site. Whilst claiming to be an 'affairs' dating site, it was quickly obvious that the bulk of MA's membership are actually the same as the other 'adult' sites run by the company behind it. Since my month's paid membership expired (it was incredibly difficult to cancel - beware, MA automatically re-bill each month) I have been bombarded with blandishments and laughably obvious scams to re-join. Whilst I was a member I calculate that I made contact with no more than 3 'real' women on the site, all of whom said they were no longer looking but had been unable to get MAto remove their profiles. I have since joined a site called Undercoverlovers.com, apparently run by women. Not only does this site not engage in fakery to lure men in, but most of the ladies members are seemingly active and willing to engage. Avoid MA like the plague and join me at UL!

Pros
Cheap

Cons
Fake members and messages
Largely inactive membership
Lack of privacy means your profile appears on countless other dodgy adult sites

Does what it says on the tin

I've been a 'Gold' member for two months now. Yes, it costs, but if you get an offer it's much cheaper than it initially looks. So far have actually met with 4 ladies from my area, all of whom were pleasant enough, and two I have carried on to second and third dates with.

You do have to put some effort in though - actually writing a decent profile, adding pictures (even if they're not of you)...all of that helps. Men going on here looking for effortless hook-ups should just go and pay for it. If you want to meet a living, breathing, thinking female for something a bit more intimate, it's a good place to start. The average lady on there seems a bit more articulate/interesting than those I've seen on similar sites. They seem to keep on top of most scammers - though, like any dating site, it's not entirely scam-free.

Search functions are pretty basic though...would be nice if there were more options to narrow searches, aside from location and age.

Pros
Simple to use
Lots of genuine members, seemingly very few fakes
Decent 'success rate'

Cons
It would be nice to have more search functions - like by postcode for example...
It is pretty pricey

Illicit Encounters works for me!

I've been a member of many dating sites both for singles and marrieds. Compared to the others, I found Illicit Encounters to be a refreshing experience. The ladies I've spoken to seem real and the 4 I've met in the flesh were undoubtedly genuine!! Like all dating sites, the women want to be wooed with wit and creativity. Unlike most dating sites, the ladies on IE seem to be serious about meeting up and taking things further.

I often think that some men think of dating sites as a quick fix to gaps in their real love lives. The online dating world is exactly the same as the real world when it comes to attracting women. You have to work at it.

The relationships I've had via Illicit Encounters have been different because the ladies I've met were looking for the same thing - i.e. not a full time relationship but an affair to fill in the gaps lacking in their married lives. Having matching expectations is important and the 2-3 times a month that we've met has suited both parties.

I would say to the guys who have posted negative experiences here, try again. I'm an average guy - not especially good looking nor wealthy, and yet I've met someone via IE each time I've paid their (admittedly high) upgrade fee.

Pros
Genuine women looking for NSA
A good ratio of women to men compared to other dating sites
They don't bombard you with communications

Cons
Pricey

Mr

I first joined Illicit Encounters about a year ago. As a natural sceptic and having had bad experiences on other dating sites I initially baulked at the high price. However after quite a few messages from ladies had built up in my Inbox temptation got the better of me and I paid to become a full member. I immediately got into a conversation with several ladies. What was refreshing was that they were unquestionably real! We had proper flirty chats and I arranged to meet one in person. It took a while though. I guess having an affair is a big step, so building up to a meeting in the flesh probably took longer than on a site like match.com. However what I liked was that the lady in question and I were in the same boat, with the same desires and expectations. When we did finally meet, it confirmed to me why I started looking for love outside of my marriage in the first place. It's filled such a gap in my life that I'm amazed I didn't do it sooner.

If my experience is anything to go by, Illicit Encounters was the fulfillment at the end of a sometimes frustrating journey through the minefield of online dating. It worked for me so it might for you!

Pros
- You're looking for the same thing as the ladies on the site
- Secure - better than using emails, mobile phones etc.
- Genuine ladies
- Decent choice

Cons
- Expensive
- More men than women, but not as bad as elsewhere
- Patience required in getting to meet up in person

Review: Get real reviews of Illicit Encounters

Typical IE nonsense. Everything critical must de facto be posted by 'the competition' so go to their website to read some of their made up letters pontificating about the site's 'virtues'.

Review: Good value if you put the effort in

What an expensive palaver just to meet someone! The vast majority of women on IE do not want to meet up for real, are scammers or fakes created by IE themselves to part you with your hard earned cash. You're better off walking into a Bar and actually talking to ladies face to face. Save your money.

Review: A word to the wise

I agree with most of your assessment here. However I disagree that given your criticisms, the ridiculous cost of this site can in any way be justified. There are many more cost effective and less frustrating ways to meet women than wasting your time here.

Review: A scam site!

I too have wasted money with these scam merchants who to my mind are little better than a Nigerian dating scam. Unfulfilled promises and fake females designed to extract cash. I've had more luck at Undercoverlovers.com which you may want to give a go.

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By: rodthemod

I too have wasted money with these scam merchants who to my mind are little better than a Nigerian dating scam. Unfulfilled promises and fake females designed to extract cash. I've had more luck at Undercoverlovers.com which you may want to give a go.

Review: Works but ...

One would hope that a website that charges £149 per month would not be so greedy as to engage in the fake profile/fake message scam. Sadly so greedy are these people that they undoubtedly do. I too have several profiles on the site and receive identical messages supposedly from the same woman at exactly the same time. Their scamming could not be more glaringly obvious. Whilst there may be a few genuine women on the site, most are as you say, time wasters, which is unsurprising given that women don't have to pay. This kind of gender based price discrimination is illegal under European law. The only reason IE get away with it is because, given the nature of the site, no guys are willing to stick their head above the parapet to challenge these avaricious shysters. Avoid this site.

Review: Doesn't work. Don't waste your time

Milano, on any dating website you have to big yourself up so Illicit encounters is no different there. Where I have found a difference is that the women are genuine. If they were fake how come I've chatted with virtually every woman I've made contact with on the site and met several in person (they appeared pretty real then!). Yes IE is pricey but in my experience you get what you pay for in life. The site has actually delivered what I was looking for, i.e. affairs, which is more than can be said for any of the other extra-marital dating sites I've been on (Ashley Madison - a scam full of fakes, Marital Affair - mainly hookers and they shared my details with other sites).

Review: Doesn't work. Don't waste your time

I think you're confusing Illicit Encounters with other sites silver tongue. My experience chimes with Simon and Eddie's. I've been on countless dating sites and got sick of paying to talk to fictitious females. Because I'm so used to this experience I fully expected IE to be the same. But it wasn't. Refreshingly most if not all of the women I've written to have responded, if only to say 'Thanks but no thanks'. I've met one now with whom things are going well, so am taking a sabbatical from the site. But I won't hesitate to return. Better to spend more and actually get what you're looking for than waste your money elsewhere. However feel free to ignore this advice, as it will mean there's more ladies to go round for the gents who are paid up members of IE!!

Review: Doesn't work. Don't waste your time

Like in all things in life, you get what you pay for. Illicit Encounters is pricey but actually works. Far fewer time wasters than other dating sites and at least people are being honest about their status. I read somewhere that over 30% of people on singles dating sites are actually married, but lying about it. Also the ladies on IE are looking for the same thing - i.e. not commitment and rose covered cottages but to fill in the gaps in their married life. To those who feel conned on IE, you're obviously not going about it the right way! Online dating is no different to real life. It takes creativity and effort to attract a lady's attention.