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If you are lucky

Review about Illicit Encounters

Its entirely down to luck that you happen to get in touch with a woman who is actively seeking partners. Its best that she is relatively new, still finding her feet, and still interested in the potential for sex.

Once she has settled in for the long haul she will either turn to exploiting any angles she learns to use; or simply doze off and become one of the many dreamers who clutter up the site.

The women who you are most likely to be successful with tend to be transients. They will use the site for a limited period of time, have real affairs and then just as mysteriously as they arrive, they vanish back to their married life. Having proved that they still can and will do it if they need to.

Those that remain are sex workers, gold diggers, site commission seekers, dreamers, feckless dabblers, revenge seekers and those who unfortunately have mental health issues.

Obviously staying on the site to find new partners can become expensive. Creating false id's and such like doesn't really help. You still need to get out and find those women and they will only be ready when it suits them. That unfortunately is entirely down to luck that you coincide with their visits.

Give it a go if you can afford it. But to be honest you have more likelihood of meeting women if you join an amateur activity, voluntary or charity organisation. Women prefer to find men in their element.

The site is no worse than any other commercial site. They all have techniques to get customers. IE does have some genuine women on it.

Pros
If lucky and you make the right effort you will do okay.

Cons
The collections of those mentioned as being the ones to avoid.

Review: If you are lucky

In the last session I met up with one who is totally wrong for the ie site. She was just using it to start a conventional relationship. So you need to look out for those ones at the moment.

There was a divorced, separated and singles club in Lewisham years ago, and that was packed with women at weekends. A good place for a pick up, if they liked you. The kind of club with about 6 bouncers in penguin suits. It was probably run by villains. But the women gathered there and on some nights you were outnumbered by them. So that kind of place is where to find them.

What I noticed was that by hanging out there you could see the new intake each week, as a fresh batch came in. obviously word got about and they talked and pulled their mates along to the club. For a while it was a cheap and decent night out.

When I worked in a charity there were several women there, one of whom I had a long running affair with. But you'd need to invest time and effort in sussing out their availability. Another option is to join a local choir, even if you can't sing a note. At some point if they fancy you , you'll find them under your feet or clinging to your company. Then its just a few moves to starting an affair.

But then its a guy's age. Now I am 56 and in the last 3 years have been seeing young asians. The Chinese girls are fine if you are an older man. They don't ask for a lot, some of them. But then sex can be quite conventional.

There are some 'beasts' on ie, but they have the appetite for it. I have met some but just couldn't bring myself to doing anything with them. they usually can be found in some of the well known adult clubs.

They are out there but the trouble is they get comfortable and complacent and don't make much effort to have a go. they have to be inspired by something different and convincing, anything that avoids the basic mechanics of getting an affair off the ground.

In the end its talk and trickery that gets them interested. So think of reason and accountability. You need to provide both. Tell them what they will be doing but take full responsibility for it. Sometimes if you target and certain type of woman, they recognise themselves in that and that makes them come forward. But you really can't predict what mood they are in or when they are going to set their sites on you.

And its money which makes it all happen. They know most of the guys on the ie site are looking for fairly cheap running costs. this does not impress at all. the women are looking for something that requires a bit of spending, even if its a hotel room for a few hours. So you're right, it can get costly.

So I expect when I am back in the money I may well have another go and hope my luck is in again.

Review: If you are lucky

Hello femaledefender,

I am glad you have chirped up to say your piece. There's probably an equal balance of men and women up to their wickedness.

It sounds like you have found someone and its all worked out quite nicely. I am assuming you have now adopted the role of 'mistress', to a married man? Its a relationship of its own characteristics and not without its own issues and problems.

However I wonder how and why women like yourself could have imagined that the site was somehow not what it says it is. Its quite clear what it caters for, and most people find it by looking specifically for that kind of relationship.

Its probably not the kind of thinking that women usually employ, but it would we good to hear you expand a bit more on your thoughts.

Thanks anyway and good luck with your new 'lifestyle'.

Review: take care

I think what is more likely is that there are people who reside on the site and other sites and seek commissions in a variety of ways. A lot of sites offer a referral scheme and it is this kind of thing which creates the emails from unknown site users. Having established some kind of communication they can then put in for the commission once a member has paid their fees. it might be a distributed share out, or by some kind of format. Who knows. The opportunity exists for anyone to exploit.

There are probably thousands of dreadful women sat at a pc round the clock seeking commissions, whinging and whining until they get it. Pin money basically.