Illicit Encounters

Loadsamoney

I agree with most of the reviews on here. I've been on and off IE for several years. I paid to join twice and have met several ladies from the site. my advice is as follows:

1) Bad - A lot of female profiles on this site are 'fake', they are set up by the website admin or commissioned scammers. They know that gullible men are led by their d*cks and not their brains and as such are gullible and fork out loadsamoney in order to get sex.

2) Bad - This site should stop 'Free' membership for ladies as it encourages bored neglected housewives with nothing better to do with their days to go online and lead men on. However the site won't make them pay as it's them that get the gullible men to join and pay up.

3) Good(ish) - I did meet 4 ladies in the 2 times i joined. three of them I met only once and they weren't interested and the fourth was a raving nymphomaniac who in all honesty I couldnt handle as she was totally bonkers.. Her and hubby were in an open relationship and shagging their way round the whole of Kent. But heck she was gorgeous :) !!!!

4) word of advice to any IE administrators who run this site. IF YOU MADE IT A MORE REASONABLE PRICE TO BE A MEMBER YOU WOULD FIND A LOT MORE MEN JOIN AND THEY WOIULD MORE READILY RENEW THEIR MEMBERSHIPS. THE PRICE PUTS MEN OFF AND THEY GIVE UP.....

Pros
Would reccomend but only if they lowered the mebership price.
If you know what you're looking for and are decent with the ladies on there you may just get lucky.

Cons
Memberships are too pricey, I'm not a skinflint just a realist. I would pay for the membership if you were guaranteed of genuine ladies but 50% are fakes or scammers...

Illicit Encounters: Luck is the key

I have used this site on and off since 2005. I have met some very nice women, three of whom I have had strong relationships with. However, it is not all plain sailing as in order to get to the truffles you have to pick up lots of stones on the way. I guess I might be quite unusual as I am exclusive with the women that I see and I don't test drive half the women on the site which some men do. The seemingly scattergun approach of some of the men make the women very wary, especially those who have been on there before and so know the form.

I have seen some bad reviews of the site and some good reviews, but like all things you get out of it what you put into it. If you expect the woman of your dreams to land in your lap you without you expending much effort you will be disappointed. If you are willing to go on there for two or three months (extortionate I know), weed out the players, scammers and fakes and play nice then you might well get lucky. But luck is the key here. There are some genuine women and you have to really search to find them, especially in the London area where there appear to be women who are paid to lead men along and then mysteriously disappear just before your membership is due to expire.

In summary, weed out the players, bored "I can only meet during the day" housewives, those who want to be "pampered" or "spoilt" (Golddiggers), young 20 somethings who clearly do not have the maturity to be on a site like that (most of them are professionals) and those who have been on there for ages (the profile number gives it away). Try to get a phone number as soon as you can, but don't be pushy. If you get a refusal or "I will do it just before we meet" then they are probably players and don't waste your time. Most genuine women have a second pay as you go phone for this purpose anyway. Don't expect sex on a first date, have a flirt and a snog and arrange a second. If you get the second date then it's likely you will end up having sex.

I'm lucky as I have met the most gorgeous and lovely woman on there and I don't intend to go back to illicit encounters because I believe I have met "the one"

Pros
It can work if you are willing to put the effort in
Community spirit with IE events put on where you can actually meet women from the site without the commitment of a date

Cons
Bored housewives
Neglected women who want to feel wanted but won't do anything
Serial daters who see which men spend the most on dinner but won't do anything
Price

Be honest

I have joined on 5 occasions in the last four years. Am pretty average...and have slept with 14 women from the site, from a stunning 28 year old, to a gorgeous late-thirtysomething, to a saggy old 52 year old, and everything in between. Probably had coffee with another 30 or so. It's fair to say that it takes a wee while to spot the timewasters and, given the cost involved, that could easily be enough to put many off after a month. Thing is, I've never tried to be anything I'm not with any of the women I've ended up with, and most have commented that this is a bit of a rarity (which to me is a shocker!). Stay honest, try to make them chuckle (before you start banging on about what you want to do with them) and you may be surprised. I've met some fab people and, hand on heart, can say I have had the best sex ever with three ladies I have met on this site. It's easy to be negative when some sad housewife dicks you about (the guy above that talks about the serial spammers is right - aim for the newer members who seem likely tobe more 'genuine')...and never think that a certainty is a certainty...but persevere and I'm sure you won't complain. Incidentally, I don't work for the site and have no agenda for posting this...but loads of reviews seem to be negative. Just wanted to redress the balance a tad...

Pros
Getting laid

Cons
Cost - horrific!

If you can't afford an affair, don't have one.

I've been using Illicit Encounters for over 3 years, I have also used dozens of other dating sites. In fact I met my first and second wife on dating sites and use Illicit Encounters to look for discreet affairs.

Like the others I have found some of the 'issues' they described but lets be realistic here, you get scammers, 'professionals' on ALL dating sites, I found that if I reported these people to the admin of Illicit Encounters, they dealt with them pretty quickly - it is not in their interest to have these people on their site after all and it's bad for business.

The site is expensive I guess - it really is relative. How much do you value being able to arrange a discreet affair in privacy and in your own time ? Sure I could go to a pub, club but where am I going to find the time to crawl dozens of venues, potentially exposing myself in public ? Like my title, having an affair and keeping it discreet is not cheap so the price of the membership really is almost irrelevant if you get what you are looking for. The price is high to keep male / female ratio balanced and it is also a kind of commitment barrier, you are not going to fork out that money if you are going to be a tyre kicker. Also people forget there is the element of 'Prestige' - it is a premium site ... Just because you cannot afford a Ferrari, does not then make Ferrari a crap car etc - talk about sour grapes

People will always complain and make excuses or blame the service for their own failures, I mean if you going on with a username like 'Cl*t Licker' - do you really expect women to respond to you ? Some people are just stupid and no matter how much they pay, they will still fail.

I won't recommend this to friends/family - people that tick that, ummm yeah right. I would recommend it to a stranger anonymously however with a bit of advice...

Don't be naive, people are never who they seem to be, especially online.

Take things slow.

Be careful about your identity until you are sure and ready to meet someone face to face.

Report the scammers.

Don't be a cheap skate.

Pros
Premium site, good female to male ratio

Lots of membership options

Good support

New features and updates frequently - keeps site fresh and exciting.

Cons
Possibly Price but if you make the effort, you shouldn't have to pay for a long membership.

Not easy - but then if something was too easy, it probably isn't worth keeping

Danger - save your money

I read reviews of the site before so I knew there were fake profiles and I had also been told that women journalists use the site, but I had been a non - gold member for while and thought I had seen some genuine women's profiles. Wrong. Once I paid all the interest (like "virtual kisses" on my profile) stopped dead. Of those I wrote to most did not even reply, one asked for money nearly straight away and one other - who I was quite keen on - eventually admitted to be in it for the flirting but did not want to meet. Then a day before my subscription was due to run out the "virtual kisses" started again. I would feel better in myself if I had given the money to charity. Complete waste of time and money. The site is a scam, as simple as that.

Pros
None

Cons
Few, if any, real women.
Of those that are "real" some are sex workers
Site might be used by journalists looking for stories. Beware!

Not what it seems

Well marketed site which has gone past its sell by date, other sites are doing it better so it now is using sex workers to draw in the punters.
The same old female names & profile Nos (eg 280455, 306778 - there are many others though) are there time and again sending out messages to new members to encourage them to pay to read the messages.

Pros
None really

Cons
Its a money making website nothing more

If you are lucky

Its entirely down to luck that you happen to get in touch with a woman who is actively seeking partners. Its best that she is relatively new, still finding her feet, and still interested in the potential for sex.

Once she has settled in for the long haul she will either turn to exploiting any angles she learns to use; or simply doze off and become one of the many dreamers who clutter up the site.

The women who you are most likely to be successful with tend to be transients. They will use the site for a limited period of time, have real affairs and then just as mysteriously as they arrive, they vanish back to their married life. Having proved that they still can and will do it if they need to.

Those that remain are sex workers, gold diggers, site commission seekers, dreamers, feckless dabblers, revenge seekers and those who unfortunately have mental health issues.

Obviously staying on the site to find new partners can become expensive. Creating false id's and such like doesn't really help. You still need to get out and find those women and they will only be ready when it suits them. That unfortunately is entirely down to luck that you coincide with their visits.

Give it a go if you can afford it. But to be honest you have more likelihood of meeting women if you join an amateur activity, voluntary or charity organisation. Women prefer to find men in their element.

The site is no worse than any other commercial site. They all have techniques to get customers. IE does have some genuine women on it.

Pros
If lucky and you make the right effort you will do okay.

Cons
The collections of those mentioned as being the ones to avoid.

take care

It is possible to meet folk from this site who are what they say they are and are seeking what they say, however as said there are an awful lot of scammers & wierdos.
But do remember that folk who use this site are by nature cheaters and by the nature of there presence liers to at least someone, there is no reason to assume that the same will not apply to the interactions that you will have.
Perhaps the most honest are those that say they want a casual relationshio or friendship.
Many (perhaps greater than 50%) will indicate they are stuck in a stale relationship & seeking a 1 2 1 longterm relationship, it is in this setting that experience shows care & cold judgement must be used. Several things can be encountered
- the meat collector - does not have the honesty to admit they seek sequential new meat will make out they only recently joined the site will talk the talk but do not really make the effort for a longterm thing, then move on to the next chase.
- the pure scammer - is after money or similar - will spin a story after period of time that they need so much £ then they can change there situtation

I would suggest that any man using the site browses it for several weeks before joining so they can work out who the chatters / players and scammers are, do pay attention to the membership No, they are issued in sequence so the lower numbers mean they have been a member for longer - most successful folk will use the site to meet someone then leave it well alone so if someone has an 'old' number despite what the profile words may say they are a chatter / player / scammer. Another way is to us the 'way back when machine' (google it - but its old copies of the site).

Pros
Some women are what they say but very very few,

Cons
Its a site for cheaters so expect lots of lies & good actors. by the time you take out the scammers / chatters / players very very few are what they say they are

Anyone with a membership No starting 2 / 3/ 4/ 5 are serial players if there after casual that fits, otherwise steer clear - there is a reason they are still on there

Good value if you put the effort in

Without going into inappropriate detail, I have met and very much enjoyed the company of a number of ladies via this site! I've been a member on and off for a few years.

Any dating site attracts fools and weirdos as well as people looking for the same thing as you. Because women can join Illicit Encounters for free, some are tyre-kickers or are just looking for a friend.

I use the message system a lot and weed out women I'm not interested in, or who just want cyber-chat or a shoulder to cry on. The ones I want to meet, I set up a meeting as soon as they're comfortable and take it "off-site" and go from there.

I get good results by being polite and respectful but cheeky, not moaning or being overtly sexual. I don't bother with the whole virtual gifts thing - my aim is to meet beautiful women as soon as possible, not flirt on the internet.

I think you get what you put in, and the high price keeps out the riff raff.

Pros
Some beautiful & genuine women looking for an affair or a no-strings meet-up join this site.

High price keeps out wannabes, waverers and fools

Cons
Some women on the site are not beautiful or genuine and/or not looking for an affair or a no-strings meet up. Don't allow them to waste your time.

High price!

illicit encouters

:(( As one of your revies said "they must be off their head or testing for paying 100 pounds for a month,wait for it I paid 89 pounds for a week.My advice is dont do it,IVE HAD NOTHING BUT EMAILS WANTING MORE MONEY.And one lady telling me where I could put a virtual kiss......

A word to the wise

Ok guys... firstly don't get your hopes up! As it's free for ladies beware there are DROVES of toe dippers, bored housewives and looneys!
If you start of knowing the fact the site is there soley to earn it's owners money, then you'll understand that all that glitters is not gold.
In fairness, on the rare occasion a scammer pops up the site owners deal with them quickly.
My advice would be, be honest, be patient & don't have expectations.There are a few genuine ladies on there, but you'll have to search long & hard to find them.
To summarise, its probably the best of a bad bunch.

Pros
Highest ratio of genuine ladies looking for an affair.
Because of the high cost, competition is limited from other men.
Scammers quickly dealt with.

Cons
High ratio of timewasters.
Very expensive.
Beware of multiple profile females.

female scammers on the site

I would urge everyone who is thinking of joining this site not to do so. Men are charged and women are not, which results in women scammers joining and they then give you a number to call that looks like a normal mobile number but gues what - its not. I complained to IE and their answer was they have fulfuilled their side of the deal so nothing they can do. They are purely interested in just getting your cash and could not care less what happens after that. What they say about numbers is not factual either - any women I have spoken to on there has said its totally disjointed. A huge number of their lady members are inactive which of course they choose not to advertise.
I URGE ALL NOT TO WASTE THEIR MONEY ON HERE.

Pros
there are none - its a rubbish site and the chat system is practically non existant

Cons
Its a total scam and the owners are not interested in correcting this.

Scam

I have used the site on more than one occassion and have met both short term and long term lovers through it. On the whole it is a good site but lately they have taken to running scams for male advertisers. By this I mean that when you are getting to the end of your month you will get emails from women who when you reply to them don`t log on again. You will also find that you get emails from young women way outside your specified area allegedly interested in you. They don`t exist! I wish they hadn`t resorted to these sort of tactics and they could be seen as fair and decent in how they operate. That said I have met lovely genuine people on the site but be warned they all aren`t

Pros
Good number of women on the site and covering every area.
Easy to use site and well put together.

Cons
The tactics used to try and get men to pay more.
The scams used to try and lure men back to the site

Mrs

I have been a member of this site on two separate occasions and have had two long lasting affairs with two very genuine guys. I can't confirm or deny the comments regarding fake female profiles, but one thing that should be drawn to the attention of anyone joining this site is:-

When searching for members be aware that if their status says last on line "over a week ago", it could be that they havent been an active member of the site for 6 months, even a year or more. IE do not delete the profiles of members who have left the site, nor do they make it easy to delete your profile. In fact this is virtually impossible. You would have to email the site administration and ask them to delete it on your behalf, however this does not always happen. SO BEWARE ...... this makes IE look like they have far, far more active members than they actually have.

Pros
There are genuine people here
Can be time consuming

Cons
The site is not populated with as many members as it would first appear
Time wasters
Expensive

Works but ...

The site is really expensive but works as I've met 3 women from there. And there are many genuine profiles but I am absolutely sure that the site has fake profiles to trick you into updating. I have made 3 different accounts , absolutely different fake persons, and all 3 get messages from the same profiles on the same day!

It is also FULL of time wasters and one need patience.

Pros
Works

Cons
Dirty tricks
payment issues
expensive
time watsers

mrs

I found the site hard work, lots of men looking for sleazy meetings or timewasters who were not prepared to meet up but wanted the 'fun' of the chase.

I joined the site to meet someone to build a relationship based on the time both can spare, without damaging each others situation. I have found few men looking for more than a daliance. Its not about a life changing love affair but an addition to what you have at home, however the fantasy can be fun.

I am genuinely only looking for a lover to add to my life, its a shame the men think they are there to be ensnared and tricked by the women.

The men need to stop chatting and ask the women for a coffee.

Pros
easy to use

free for women

Cons
sleazy men

time wasters

Fake members and messages....

I've been a member of Illicit Encounters twice now. The first time, early last year, I did meet a lovely lady with whom I had a several months long affair. When this affair finished I rejoined and was disappointed to discover that IE now engage in the dodgy marketing tactics of other sites. Having previously learnt the cautious behaviour of a typical female member, it was transparently obvious when I rejoined that IE, that the company had changed tactics in an attempt to extract more cash from me. I was suddenly bombarded with messages from ladies apparently lusting after me (even though I had not posted any publicly viewable pictures). My advice to prospective cheaters is save money and go to married dating site UndercoverLovers.com, which is much cheaper and where there appear to be far more genuine ladies looking for affairs.

Pros
One of the first married dating sites

Cons
Fake members and messages
Ridiculously expensive
Very few genuine women

Lot's of fun to be had

I have been on IE a couple of times. I am a genuine woman looking for a lover. I have had email with lots of men and have met and had sex with some of them. The site has allowed me to have some wonderful experiences. I have found that some of the men are not interested in actually meeting up, the men look at my photos say they like me but when I say, well let's meet they seem incapable of actually comitting themselves ad organisng something. So to the men who complain I would say, ask for a date, that's what we want.

Pros
Full of men
Easy to use

Cons
Some of the men seem to be timewasters and don't want to meet up.

Be careful

I can definitely confirm that there are real women on here. I haven't met any yet but I have met the husband of one that I had emailed. Somehow he tracked down my mobile number and address (neither of which I had given out) and came round to encourage me to stop emailing his wife and not to even think about meeting her. Go ahead and join up if you want to but it isn't without risk. I suppose you get what you deserve, as with the real world.

Pros
There are real women

Cons
Just be careful, follow their advice pages

Waste of time and money

I think I should need my head testing for paying over 100 pounds for 1 month membership of a dating site. I had 1 month membership last year (2010) and met one nice lady - it could have gone somewhere if I had more opportunities for meeting but I think she was just a flash in the pan. But the amount of time spent writing witty messages etc and the cost don't really justify it. Nearly all the profiles are genuine I would say - the sheer ordinariness of the ladies is proof of that and most keep their picture hidden. But as it is free for ladies there are too many just doing it for a laugh and be prepared to waste a lot of precious time. I did notice one thing - while not a gold member you get a trickle of messages from different ladies - but you cannot read them without membership - then when you join and go back over the messages you find they are all one liners - like, "just got back been away a while" - and none of those who sent messages in replied to me after I joined. If you have masses of free time to invest and think 134 quid a month is good value then this might be for you. But I implore you not to give these blood suckers any of your money - like I did, fool that I am. Get out and try the odd chat up with someone you really fancy as most of the women on here are just old frumps.

Pros
- lot of genuine profiles

Cons
- too many plain janes and old frumps
- scandalously costly
- fake messages
- timewasters

Mr

Just coming toward the end of my second paid up spell on IE.Fair amount of success last summer,even though there were lots of complete timewasters.Unfortunately this spell has seen even more timewasters,together with the continued presence of last summers timewasters!!.
I believe the site would be vastly improved if women,after a free period of gold membership,had to then somehow qualify their authenticity.Even today,on log-in the same old faces from last summer!,those who didnt acknowledge a message then ,and bet your life wouldnt today.
On a positive note have corresponded and met some real,and genuine people.I have also met some inveterate liars with a whole range of rather worrying baggage!.The cost is quite high but if endless chatters,timewasters and nightfighters could be illiminated (not literally),then it would be fair value

Pros
Easy to use,fair amount of success

Cons
Too many timewasters!

Waste of time not forgeting money

Having been on and off IE for the past 18-24 months in both capacities(gold and non gold) one thing stands out and its not that the site is value for money but it appears some female members have a tendency to linger on and linger on and linger on for sometime i could easily name a few but my advice... chat up your nieghbours wife you will at least be talking to a woman and a real person!

Does what it says on the tin

I've been a 'Gold' member for two months now. Yes, it costs, but if you get an offer it's much cheaper than it initially looks. So far have actually met with 4 ladies from my area, all of whom were pleasant enough, and two I have carried on to second and third dates with.

You do have to put some effort in though - actually writing a decent profile, adding pictures (even if they're not of you)...all of that helps. Men going on here looking for effortless hook-ups should just go and pay for it. If you want to meet a living, breathing, thinking female for something a bit more intimate, it's a good place to start. The average lady on there seems a bit more articulate/interesting than those I've seen on similar sites. They seem to keep on top of most scammers - though, like any dating site, it's not entirely scam-free.

Search functions are pretty basic though...would be nice if there were more options to narrow searches, aside from location and age.

Pros
Simple to use
Lots of genuine members, seemingly very few fakes
Decent 'success rate'

Cons
It would be nice to have more search functions - like by postcode for example...
It is pretty pricey

Illicit Encounters works for me!

I've been a member of many dating sites both for singles and marrieds. Compared to the others, I found Illicit Encounters to be a refreshing experience. The ladies I've spoken to seem real and the 4 I've met in the flesh were undoubtedly genuine!! Like all dating sites, the women want to be wooed with wit and creativity. Unlike most dating sites, the ladies on IE seem to be serious about meeting up and taking things further.

I often think that some men think of dating sites as a quick fix to gaps in their real love lives. The online dating world is exactly the same as the real world when it comes to attracting women. You have to work at it.

The relationships I've had via Illicit Encounters have been different because the ladies I've met were looking for the same thing - i.e. not a full time relationship but an affair to fill in the gaps lacking in their married lives. Having matching expectations is important and the 2-3 times a month that we've met has suited both parties.

I would say to the guys who have posted negative experiences here, try again. I'm an average guy - not especially good looking nor wealthy, and yet I've met someone via IE each time I've paid their (admittedly high) upgrade fee.

Pros
Genuine women looking for NSA
A good ratio of women to men compared to other dating sites
They don't bombard you with communications

Cons
Pricey

Too many fake female profiles/escorts plying trade

It's quite re-assuring to read some of the males having a similar experience on here.
I have to say the first time I joined I did have a couple of meets and successes (in 08) but subsequently upon re-joining it seems that it's now become a commercial exercise to extract one-off member with the extortionate joining fee. I set up two very different profiles (non Gold member) and each was contacted (in the first instance) by exactly the same women, with similar generic names and very similar profile content. It seems they are just enticing you to join one off, it doesn't matter if you don't come back due to the high fee you paid.

This is a shame as there are a few genuine women on there but it does seem quite an effort to find those. Another issue is that because the females don't have to pay it seems that a few just use it an ego massaging exercise rather than seriously for who it is trying to match up (you can tell as they are still there after a few years!). So you have a huge mismatch of guys thinking they will message everything and anything just because of the outlay. In this case I think there should be a nominal fee for women to weed out time wasters ... but I guess it's all about supply and demand then? eh?!

Pros
Not a huge amount of men (probably due to price!)

Cons
Illicit Encounters using fake profiles and messaging to entice men to upgrade membership.
A fair few non-serious women using it as a validation tool (but then which dating site doesn't?!) and a number of escorts looking to hook up a guy who will spend on something like this.