There are some reviews that state there are "fake users" or women sending winks, collect messages, chat and so on. The answer is to go into "Manage Profile" and UN-Check the box that says "Market Research." If this box is checked, then you're asking for it. See the section below, that is straight out of the AM Terms of Use Agreement:
"From time to time the Service may include, offer, initiate or send winks, virtual gifts, collect messages, instant chat and/or replies from individuals or programs ("Market Research") for market research and/or customer experience and/or quality control and/or compliance purposes. Market Research information is used to provide analysis, feedback, trends, patterns, social commentary and information in the aggregate and aides in the process of monitoring our system for compliance with our operating standards. Market Research will NOT be conspicuously identified as such. Any interaction or communication with Market Research is independent of, and separate from, our general database of Member's seeking personal or physical or other kinds of encounters or introductions. If you do not wish to continue to receive Market Research, to which the receipt of such messages you hereby consent, go to "Manage Profile" and click on "Profile Options", in "Profile Options" select "Check this box if you do not wish to by contacted by Market Research." Then click on "UPDATE."
I'm one of those women who gave up on dating sites but very much wants to continue having sex with lusty men. AM is perfect since it's full of unavailable men who won't want to come home to meet the kids or mom & dad. They all want what I want: Sex. Women, it's important to be honest on your profiles. If you want one guy, be truthful about yourself. What do you want? Kinky stuff? Conservative stuff? Post your real weight, your real age. Have a real picture (a flattering one, but within the last year) in your private showcase or be ready to talk on e-mail (which guys will want to do in order to avoid charges from AM). Don't sent the picture until you trust that the guy isn't your next-door neighbor or a PI sent by your husband or boss.
The problem is, 99% of these guys lie, compulsively. Even more than you might imagine, the pictures are OLD, the weights and ages are wrong (sometimes in an attempt to lead any suspicious spouses away from one's profile), and even though they say they want "only one," they know that's what women want to hear.
My solution is to create half a dozen profiles: A few "real" ones and four decoys that try to lure these "only one" guys into having sex. The decoys protect me. In two cases where I really thought guys wanted me for their exclusive sex/affair partner, they set up a sex date, sight unseen, with one of my decoys the very next day. Dummies. For girls like me who are serious about safe and clean guys who aren't with a bunch of other women at the same time, we'll do whatever it takes to guarantee our own safety. I have no problem with that though the guys were livid with the "entrapment." Tough.
Guys, just tell the truth, will you? If you are interested in one-night stands, tell the girl that you can't promise anything after one night. Otherwise, if you tell her you want to try each other out for an exclusive gig, you'll just piss her off.
So, here's the thing. You might get lucky. I did. After kissing a couple of really awful frogs (a psycho old dude I describe below under "cons," a sex addict who I swear had herpes sores on the picture of his penis that he insisted on texting me, a guy who was 12 years older than what his profile said who told me I was the only one he wanted and then made a sex date with my decoy only two hours later. . .. ) I found an incredible, sexy, passionate man who taught me more than I could ever dream of knowing about sex. But I consider this crazy luck, NOT due to AM itself.
I can't really say "no" to AM but I can't enthusiastically endorse it, either. Were it not for the incredible lover--unavailable married lover, just my style--who I finally met, I would say "NO." But we are incredibly happy, having more sex in the last 6 months than I had in 15 years of marriage.
Pros 1. There really are some great guys who are sincere in their desire for an exclusive sexual relationship outside of their marriage. Sounds strange, but it's true. They aren't "players." These guys are worth it. But they are VERY few and far between. I finally met one after meeting hundreds and messaging around 80.
2. It's fun. Gives you something to do. Flattering too! However, you need to ignore 90% of the messages in order to have fun.
3. Some of the nude pictures are worth the price of admission (which is free for women). Be sure to check "accept rated photos" in your preferences. Request private showcase photos from men (even from other countries) who look frisky. They are usually happy to comply.
Cons 1. Guys lie. They will say they want exclusivity, but then they say the same thing to 10 other girls. Your dummy profiles will catch these and protect you.
2. The guys who don't have "AM" beside their name are "free" members and are either transients hanging out at the library, cheap guys hoping to get lucky, high school students in study hall, or psych 101 students doing a research project. It's a waste of time even responding to these dudes.
3. I met a few of the most psycho men I've ever imagined on this site. One was a 260-pound 65-year-old guy on heart medicine who said (on his profile) he was 55 and 170#. His picture was 30 years old. He stopped his meds 2 days before so he could get it up for our meeting. He almost blacked out on me and then went into a flying rage the next day. Total psycho.
4. Prepare yourself for some criticism unless you're perfect. If you have a wonderful body, you will have NO trouble getting yourself a f**k buddy immediately. If you are older or heavier than the norm, you will get a reaction that will call your self-esteem into doubt. For example, I am a bit heavier than the norm. I had a good four days of chat with a guy--a police officer, in fact. He sent his pic. I sent mine. He told me, point blank, that I was heavier than he thought and he wasn't attracted. That stung and I felt better after letting him know that I wasn't into shallow guys.
Most profiles are fakes, Some people have several profiles, Men posing as women and women posing as men, Fake photos, Just nothing but a disaster waiting to happen, Never chat in the forums or you will be almost immediately stalked and attacked by trolls who use the forums as their own private sanctuary guarded closely by the moderators of the website who will delete any new comers to protect the regulars in the forums
Charmingdate sole purpose is to hook and cheat lovesick western men of dollars. The women are never to be reached in real life and they always provoke you to pay more n more for chatting.
Pros None
Cons Cost a lot of dollars without anything back. The women and men are held totally apart just to give no chance of contact outside the site.
that is total bullshit! im tired of the negatives let me tell you the pros: as soon as you go on the site there are people who are online that you can talk to there are a variety of people of all races and genders (even trannies) but if you are not a total loser or pervert looking to just get yourself off and you are attractive and are composed of some substance then you will be successful. i have been on there five times and have hooked up three out of five i now have the three month membership.when i am in need i can depend on sexsearch to keep me from being alone you just have to show the people what they want to see and you cant be a lameass!
Pros instant messaging,beautiful people! you will be horny just going online!
Cons every now and then there are computer generated profiles but not as many as some people claim.
i use the site for a long time already. i have not found my woman yet. i hope this happens soon. many sexy ladies show interest in me. i just can not make up my mind which one to choose. the last option they launched at the site is video chat. and now i can see these russin beauties in real life.
Pros video chat is the best thing
Cons i get messages almost from every lady of the site. am i really so popular? that's strange. my inbox is overloaded.
If she's young (25) and hot and flirting with you she's probably up to something. These sharks will give you an e-mail address and hen in contact will redirect you to another site. How may 25yr olds stay at a four seasons just to visit friends?
If they have that kind of money, they probably don't need to be scamming men.
AFF does a good job of deleting these profiles and if you report 1, they will watch out for you.
I am amazed this site hasn't been banned by British authorities yet. They simply con money from people.
I got an introductory offer. 3 days access for only £1.99 or so. I agreed and let them charge it to my PayPal account. Big mistake. 2 days into it, getting weird emails from women who definitely had not written these emails to me, I wanted to cancel before they would charge me the £24.95 for another month.
I went into my account setting and followed instructions, and chose to cancel the 'repeat billing' as they call it. No big deal I thought. But God was I wrong. MatureDating.co.uk DO NOT let you cancel your automatic payments. Instead you are instructed to await a so-called CANCELLATION CODE, which you are then supposed to enter BEFORE the YET ANOTHER procedure will be given to you, WHICH YOU ALSO have to follow, for them to cancel your payments. However, they DO NOT send you the cancellation code in time to cancel, before the next payment is due. They say they send it within an hour, and you have ONLY 2 days to deactivate your payment, else you WILL be charged. I have not yet made it to the last cancellation 'challenge' and I think I will now just go to the police and report them for FRAUD.
I, unfortunately, did sign up for the Gold membership. What the heck. $30 or so is not a big deal. Yes, I have received interest from a few females, all of course are model types. I answered most of them back and have received a couple of email answers. As others have indicated they seem like just standard generic answers. Just today I responded to one member and asked for her phone number so that I could verify if she was real or not. I don't expect her to provide that and maybe she won't even answer back. Now, since the original purchase indicated that the membership will automatically be renewed until cancelled, I am wondering how easy it will be to cancel. I don't see anywhere on their site that gives the opportunity to cancel. If all else fails I will call them to cancel and follow up with a cancellation email. They are probably banking upon members who won't report them to the Federal Trade Commission for fear of being exposed.
Pros Non that I can find.
Cons Most probably a total ripoff and that most, if not all of the people on the site, don't exist except in photos.
As an older guy (63) this site has been very useful. Thus far I have dated two college girls from the site and am in the process of meeting two others. I have heard from these girls that there are a lot of flaky guys, confirming what some other female reviewers have mentioned. The key to doing this right is to be very respectful in your profile and also when you are communicating with the girls. I never mention any sort of sexual act and when money is mentioned it is only with respect to paying for her time with me. I am also very specific in my profile as to what sort of relationship I am looking for and what I am offering which is minimal and not intended to be full time support, as I have had a long term sugar daddy relationship in the past and just looking to replace it once I find the right girl. I do get a lot of messages from girls who live far away, some even in foreign countries. I ignore them, as it is just impractical to have a long distance relationship this way -- there are plenty of girls in my vicinity to choose from, I do not need to look elsewhere. Also, any contact from a foreign country will likely be a scam so just know to not get caught up in that. I have been on the site for a few months. One thing you need to know is that when your paid subscription is about to expire and immediately thereafter, you will get a ton of messages from girls whose pics are very nice and you will want to reply to those messages. It is just a ploy to get you to renew, since you can't reply unless you are a paid subscriber. After you renew and respond to those messages the girls disappear and you never hear back. I checked a couple of them a few weeks later and the profiles had either been removed or the last login date was when they sent me the original message, so I figure those are all fake. There are some girls who are looking for outrageous sums of money (such as more than 10k/mo) and others who say they are not willing to get intimate and just looking for a "mentor". Memo to these girls: you are wasting your time. Most of the girls I have contacted or who have contacted me at other times are real (I generally get their phone numbers and real e-mail address as soon as possible). All in all I believe it is good value -- if an old guy like me can get dates with 19 to 24 year old college girls from this site, then anybody can, just write a good profile -- "if you build it, they will come (and so will you)".
**Update** Just made a major mistake: had the girl come to my door without meeting her first at a restaurant. I barely recognized her from her photo -- she must have put on about 50 pounds since her photos were uploaded. Will just chalk that up to a lesson learned. This is the first of four I've met so far from this site that didn't resemble her photo. She was nice but I am not into BBWs and would never have agreed to see her if I had known the truth.
Pros Most girls are attractive and real.
Easy to hook up.
Search engine is pretty good (when searching, don't waste time contacting girls who haven't logged in within the last month).
Marrymesugardaddy site is a joke. Rich people just sit back and read emails with no intention of meeting and waste of time. Its ridiculous that suarbaby has to pay using the site.
This site should list prices on faq instead of signup.
Pros Easy profile to setup
Search friendly
Cons Waste of time and money
When I reply back to men's emails, I don't hear back from them.
Men just look at pictures with no intentions of meeting
Not disclosing fees at the beginning of the page
You have to pay to read messages
Too many Ims popping out when I was signing up
Overcharges and don't use your credit(get a prepaid credit card)
Cannot send ims stating review profile
Unwanted Ims from homosexuals contacting straight person
Jerks
as I have been on and off of it for the last few years. There are absolutley more women then men by a large ratio but if you work hard, write a decent profile, post some good pictures you can and will meet women. I have met several over the years and have had a great time.
Have also tried AFF and Fling with very poor results. AFF is great if you are a couple or single woman as it has evolved into almost exclusively a swinger site. Fling.com has been worthless, lots of fakes with attractive photos, lots of not so attractive women that appear to be real.
AM has plenty of hot women, is discreet and absolutely works!
Pros Lots of attractive women looking to have fun. The key concept allows privacy for both the women and men to share pictures.
Cons The ratio is of men to women is the typcial adult dating 10 to 1 so you need to have some game!
The home page and advertisements for Our Time in NO WAY depict what's really going on here. They definitely use models for ads because the men who contacted me were, as someone else put it in their review, Walmart, truck driving, beer drinking, no sleeves material. Barely a professional in the bunch; which seems very very odd. Also, they seem to "switch cities" on you. One hopeful's profile said he was from New Jersey then, as soon as I said Los Angeles, I noticed his switched to LA. Is there a bait & switch going on here? This is a sad, sad site which, once again, plays on people's vulnerability and hope of finding someone in their own age group. Really too bad. Actually, just awful.
Total scam,almost impossible to cancel repeat billing,you have to skype them,and they w'ont do it..
All girls and woman contacting you are fakes,they are posting from another time zone,an island in the bahamas or Jamaica,I tested all mail with this question: What is your favorite pet? not one answers,they just keep on replying with bots.
They should be sued for breach of contracts,and everything in the kitchen sink.
avoid at all cost.
The site is nothing but a big rip off. Payed for the premium service and got nothing, not one bloody response. I even clicked on just about ever person on the site, even those I wouldn't normally be interested in. What struck me as bizarre, was the number of woman that claimed to have degrees. Anyone that claims to have met some one is either talking out their arse or is on the scam.
Pros Got to know what it feels like to throw money down the shitter.
Cons Everything, it's a scam and a con. Buy a lottery ticket instead you'll have better odds of hooking up with the lotto girl than meeting anyone at JapanStupid.
I have seen lots of scams that prey on men who are either lonely or frustrated in the marriage, but Ashley Madison is the real deal. I have been using it for almost 18 months, and I have had three lengthy affairs with beautiful women in my age category (34 - 50), and have had a dozen other dates, one night stands and sexual encounters. There are a good number of fake profiles that pop up, but they are both obvious and not tolerated - they are taken down usually within a day. I have also used the site in London and Sydney, Australia via their Traveling Man feature, which lets you send multiple messages in a single, cost effective way. There are also escorts and women looking for sugar daddies, but all in all the site is real, with real women looking for real affairs. I am deeply grateful for AM and a huge proponent! Thanks AM!
Pros - Lots of real women looking for real affairs
- Do not tolerate fake profiles
- Wide variety of women
- Traveling Man feature lets you seek an affair while on business travel
- Global
What a joke, I am guessing this site is owned by some Nigerian Prince! It's that much of a scam. I paid for membership and had my card cloned and am now trying to claim back thousands of pounds.
Do not use this site, it will take all your money!
Others have talked about the quality of the people on this site. Lots of weird people here? Absolutely! I will tell you a little bit about the site itself. This site recently got a facelift. Unfortunately it looks like the facelift was done by one of those cheap Persian doctors with no plastic surgery experience!! You know what I mean! I am sure you have seen all those Persian nose jobs that look like someone is pinching the nose, not to mention the nostrils you can see all the way!!
The site was probably purchased by a larger company. The quality dropped drastically. I am not sure the people behind it are even Persian any more. The site is often down. Images do not load; or they are cutoff. Links do not work. Evidently, they could not care less. Searching is frustrating. The sites design is not user-friendly at all. Customer service is a big zero.
Online dating is big these days. However, for the Persian community in the US, there is nothing that is worthwhile. Hopefully someone will come up with something with a little more substance to it.
I found this to be a great way to meet people who want to date out - I've met several quality local women on this site, and have being seeing somebody seriously for almost a year. There are some scammers, but they are pretty easy to spot/ignore/block.
Pros Good search features. You can respond to messages on a free membership.
Cons Not many - A nit-pick is that the photo <next><prev> buttons are small and a pain to use - other sites offer easier navigation. The 'height' section is grouped by ranges such as - 5'7 to 6'0 - not much help if he's 5'9 and left wondering if she's 5'7 or 5'11;
I paid up for one month £29.99 and found that I got charged £89.99 for six months contract. Unless I pressed the wrong button , I have had money illegally taken. I will call on Monday to see if I can get some money back as they are shut in the weekend.
Generally I feel a right fool. All those messages sent before I joined where all pretty much dead ends and probably done by insiders. I feel like right d**k for falling for the inticement. Since being a paid member I have just had more time wasting and fake emails.
These criminal are getting away with this and the law has to come in for these sites. There are too many of them. Please don't waste money. Stay away.
I found ChristianMingle to hide the bottom line about costs and process until the person is signed up and has built a profile. They do not reveal their process up front, but as a Christian, I see this as divisive. I had to send multiple e-mails to support to get answers to my questions and they take many, many days to reply.
First, I discovered that both parties must have 'paid' subscriptions in order to exchange information. Second, I found that nowhere on a profile does it indicate whether a person is a paid member or not; so its a guessing game. For example, if I want to converse with Jane Doe, I have to pay for a membership and then send an e-mail. Okay, thats fine; I have no problem with that. If Jane Doe is a paid member, she can read my message. However, if she is not a paid member, then Jane Doe must also pay to be a member just to read my message. Therefore, ChristianMingle is getting paid double to connect me to one person. Therefore, what am I paying for exactly? Paying to have an e-mail sent into a holding status? There's not much incentive here. I have a problem with double dipping; especially when a month subscription is as much as other dating websites, but remember, there must be two paid memberships to connect one couple togetherbut not the case with other dating websites.
Pros A great way to read the profiles of other Christians and find out what they say about their relationship with God; after all, the word 'Christian' these days is a vague term.
Cons They are not upfront about their fees and processes.
It takes two paid memberships to connect one couple together.
Their monthly subscription rate is high considering they require two memberships to connect one couple together.
About those "fake" messages, winks, and so on
Review about Ashley MadisonThere are some reviews that state there are "fake users" or women sending winks, collect messages, chat and so on. The answer is to go into "Manage Profile" and UN-Check the box that says "Market Research." If this box is checked, then you're asking for it. See the section below, that is straight out of the AM Terms of Use Agreement:
"From time to time the Service may include, offer, initiate or send winks, virtual gifts, collect messages, instant chat and/or replies from individuals or programs ("Market Research") for market research and/or customer experience and/or quality control and/or compliance purposes. Market Research information is used to provide analysis, feedback, trends, patterns, social commentary and information in the aggregate and aides in the process of monitoring our system for compliance with our operating standards. Market Research will NOT be conspicuously identified as such. Any interaction or communication with Market Research is independent of, and separate from, our general database of Member's seeking personal or physical or other kinds of encounters or introductions. If you do not wish to continue to receive Market Research, to which the receipt of such messages you hereby consent, go to "Manage Profile" and click on "Profile Options", in "Profile Options" select "Check this box if you do not wish to by contacted by Market Research." Then click on "UPDATE."
Women, be very very afraid. . . . and go elsewhere! Or just have fun and lurk.
Review about Ashley MadisonI'm one of those women who gave up on dating sites but very much wants to continue having sex with lusty men. AM is perfect since it's full of unavailable men who won't want to come home to meet the kids or mom & dad. They all want what I want: Sex. Women, it's important to be honest on your profiles. If you want one guy, be truthful about yourself. What do you want? Kinky stuff? Conservative stuff? Post your real weight, your real age. Have a real picture (a flattering one, but within the last year) in your private showcase or be ready to talk on e-mail (which guys will want to do in order to avoid charges from AM). Don't sent the picture until you trust that the guy isn't your next-door neighbor or a PI sent by your husband or boss.
The problem is, 99% of these guys lie, compulsively. Even more than you might imagine, the pictures are OLD, the weights and ages are wrong (sometimes in an attempt to lead any suspicious spouses away from one's profile), and even though they say they want "only one," they know that's what women want to hear.
My solution is to create half a dozen profiles: A few "real" ones and four decoys that try to lure these "only one" guys into having sex. The decoys protect me. In two cases where I really thought guys wanted me for their exclusive sex/affair partner, they set up a sex date, sight unseen, with one of my decoys the very next day. Dummies. For girls like me who are serious about safe and clean guys who aren't with a bunch of other women at the same time, we'll do whatever it takes to guarantee our own safety. I have no problem with that though the guys were livid with the "entrapment." Tough.
Guys, just tell the truth, will you? If you are interested in one-night stands, tell the girl that you can't promise anything after one night. Otherwise, if you tell her you want to try each other out for an exclusive gig, you'll just piss her off.
So, here's the thing. You might get lucky. I did. After kissing a couple of really awful frogs (a psycho old dude I describe below under "cons," a sex addict who I swear had herpes sores on the picture of his penis that he insisted on texting me, a guy who was 12 years older than what his profile said who told me I was the only one he wanted and then made a sex date with my decoy only two hours later. . .. ) I found an incredible, sexy, passionate man who taught me more than I could ever dream of knowing about sex. But I consider this crazy luck, NOT due to AM itself.
I can't really say "no" to AM but I can't enthusiastically endorse it, either. Were it not for the incredible lover--unavailable married lover, just my style--who I finally met, I would say "NO." But we are incredibly happy, having more sex in the last 6 months than I had in 15 years of marriage.
Pros
1. There really are some great guys who are sincere in their desire for an exclusive sexual relationship outside of their marriage. Sounds strange, but it's true. They aren't "players." These guys are worth it. But they are VERY few and far between. I finally met one after meeting hundreds and messaging around 80.
2. It's fun. Gives you something to do. Flattering too! However, you need to ignore 90% of the messages in order to have fun.
3. Some of the nude pictures are worth the price of admission (which is free for women). Be sure to check "accept rated photos" in your preferences. Request private showcase photos from men (even from other countries) who look frisky. They are usually happy to comply.
Cons
1. Guys lie. They will say they want exclusivity, but then they say the same thing to 10 other girls. Your dummy profiles will catch these and protect you.
2. The guys who don't have "AM" beside their name are "free" members and are either transients hanging out at the library, cheap guys hoping to get lucky, high school students in study hall, or psych 101 students doing a research project. It's a waste of time even responding to these dudes.
3. I met a few of the most psycho men I've ever imagined on this site. One was a 260-pound 65-year-old guy on heart medicine who said (on his profile) he was 55 and 170#. His picture was 30 years old. He stopped his meds 2 days before so he could get it up for our meeting. He almost blacked out on me and then went into a flying rage the next day. Total psycho.
4. Prepare yourself for some criticism unless you're perfect. If you have a wonderful body, you will have NO trouble getting yourself a f**k buddy immediately. If you are older or heavier than the norm, you will get a reaction that will call your self-esteem into doubt. For example, I am a bit heavier than the norm. I had a good four days of chat with a guy--a police officer, in fact. He sent his pic. I sent mine. He told me, point blank, that I was heavier than he thought and he wasn't attracted. That stung and I felt better after letting him know that I wasn't into shallow guys.
Filled with scammers and hatred
Review about ConnectingSinglesMost profiles are fakes, Some people have several profiles, Men posing as women and women posing as men, Fake photos, Just nothing but a disaster waiting to happen, Never chat in the forums or you will be almost immediately stalked and attacked by trolls who use the forums as their own private sanctuary guarded closely by the moderators of the website who will delete any new comers to protect the regulars in the forums
Pros
A learning experience
Cons
Scammers, Con-artists, Moderators, Fake profiles,Hatred, Racism, Trolls
CharmingScam.com would be more appropriate
Review about CharmingDate.comCharmingdate sole purpose is to hook and cheat lovesick western men of dollars. The women are never to be reached in real life and they always provoke you to pay more n more for chatting.
Pros
None
Cons
Cost a lot of dollars without anything back. The women and men are held totally apart just to give no chance of contact outside the site.
dont believe the negative talk
Review about SexSearchthat is total bullshit! im tired of the negatives let me tell you the pros: as soon as you go on the site there are people who are online that you can talk to there are a variety of people of all races and genders (even trannies) but if you are not a total loser or pervert looking to just get yourself off and you are attractive and are composed of some substance then you will be successful. i have been on there five times and have hooked up three out of five i now have the three month membership.when i am in need i can depend on sexsearch to keep me from being alone you just have to show the people what they want to see and you cant be a lameass!
Pros
instant messaging,beautiful people! you will be horny just going online!
Cons
every now and then there are computer generated profiles but not as many as some people claim.
Best site ever
Review about Seeking ArrangementFor what the site is, it works. But obviously it's not for everyone. If you want a sugar relationship though this is the website to use.
Pros
Real, verified and generous men.
Free for girls.
Super easy to use.
Cons
None.
mail order brides
Review about BeHappy2Dayi use the site for a long time already. i have not found my woman yet. i hope this happens soon. many sexy ladies show interest in me. i just can not make up my mind which one to choose. the last option they launched at the site is video chat. and now i can see these russin beauties in real life.
Pros
video chat is the best thing
Cons
i get messages almost from every lady of the site. am i really so popular? that's strange. my inbox is overloaded.
Watch out for the sharks
Review about Adult FriendfinderIf she's young (25) and hot and flirting with you she's probably up to something. These sharks will give you an e-mail address and hen in contact will redirect you to another site. How may 25yr olds stay at a four seasons just to visit friends?
If they have that kind of money, they probably don't need to be scamming men.
AFF does a good job of deleting these profiles and if you report 1, they will watch out for you.
Pros
Good customer support
Cons
The fake profiles....
Scammers
Review about Ashley MadisonYes, they have personnel on the payroll who send collect messages and use fake profiles.
Who stays on line 24/7 for weeks on end? A dead give away!
Pros
Nothing, even the real profiles are scary.
Cons
Collect messages....Don't be fooled.
maturedating.co.uk nothing but a scam
Review about Mature Dating UKI am amazed this site hasn't been banned by British authorities yet. They simply con money from people.
I got an introductory offer. 3 days access for only £1.99 or so. I agreed and let them charge it to my PayPal account. Big mistake. 2 days into it, getting weird emails from women who definitely had not written these emails to me, I wanted to cancel before they would charge me the £24.95 for another month.
I went into my account setting and followed instructions, and chose to cancel the 'repeat billing' as they call it. No big deal I thought. But God was I wrong. MatureDating.co.uk DO NOT let you cancel your automatic payments. Instead you are instructed to await a so-called CANCELLATION CODE, which you are then supposed to enter BEFORE the YET ANOTHER procedure will be given to you, WHICH YOU ALSO have to follow, for them to cancel your payments. However, they DO NOT send you the cancellation code in time to cancel, before the next payment is due. They say they send it within an hour, and you have ONLY 2 days to deactivate your payment, else you WILL be charged. I have not yet made it to the last cancellation 'challenge' and I think I will now just go to the police and report them for FRAUD.
Pros
None, this is a scam
Cons
Everything.
XPress so far seems like a totally bogus site
Review about XPress.comI, unfortunately, did sign up for the Gold membership. What the heck. $30 or so is not a big deal. Yes, I have received interest from a few females, all of course are model types. I answered most of them back and have received a couple of email answers. As others have indicated they seem like just standard generic answers. Just today I responded to one member and asked for her phone number so that I could verify if she was real or not. I don't expect her to provide that and maybe she won't even answer back. Now, since the original purchase indicated that the membership will automatically be renewed until cancelled, I am wondering how easy it will be to cancel. I don't see anywhere on their site that gives the opportunity to cancel. If all else fails I will call them to cancel and follow up with a cancellation email. They are probably banking upon members who won't report them to the Federal Trade Commission for fear of being exposed.
Pros
Non that I can find.
Cons
Most probably a total ripoff and that most, if not all of the people on the site, don't exist except in photos.
Seeking Arrangement -- Worthwhile if you know how to use it
Review about Seeking ArrangementAs an older guy (63) this site has been very useful. Thus far I have dated two college girls from the site and am in the process of meeting two others. I have heard from these girls that there are a lot of flaky guys, confirming what some other female reviewers have mentioned. The key to doing this right is to be very respectful in your profile and also when you are communicating with the girls. I never mention any sort of sexual act and when money is mentioned it is only with respect to paying for her time with me. I am also very specific in my profile as to what sort of relationship I am looking for and what I am offering which is minimal and not intended to be full time support, as I have had a long term sugar daddy relationship in the past and just looking to replace it once I find the right girl. I do get a lot of messages from girls who live far away, some even in foreign countries. I ignore them, as it is just impractical to have a long distance relationship this way -- there are plenty of girls in my vicinity to choose from, I do not need to look elsewhere. Also, any contact from a foreign country will likely be a scam so just know to not get caught up in that. I have been on the site for a few months. One thing you need to know is that when your paid subscription is about to expire and immediately thereafter, you will get a ton of messages from girls whose pics are very nice and you will want to reply to those messages. It is just a ploy to get you to renew, since you can't reply unless you are a paid subscriber. After you renew and respond to those messages the girls disappear and you never hear back. I checked a couple of them a few weeks later and the profiles had either been removed or the last login date was when they sent me the original message, so I figure those are all fake. There are some girls who are looking for outrageous sums of money (such as more than 10k/mo) and others who say they are not willing to get intimate and just looking for a "mentor". Memo to these girls: you are wasting your time. Most of the girls I have contacted or who have contacted me at other times are real (I generally get their phone numbers and real e-mail address as soon as possible). All in all I believe it is good value -- if an old guy like me can get dates with 19 to 24 year old college girls from this site, then anybody can, just write a good profile -- "if you build it, they will come (and so will you)".
**Update** Just made a major mistake: had the girl come to my door without meeting her first at a restaurant. I barely recognized her from her photo -- she must have put on about 50 pounds since her photos were uploaded. Will just chalk that up to a lesson learned. This is the first of four I've met so far from this site that didn't resemble her photo. She was nice but I am not into BBWs and would never have agreed to see her if I had known the truth.
Pros
Most girls are attractive and real.
Easy to hook up.
Search engine is pretty good (when searching, don't waste time contacting girls who haven't logged in within the last month).
Cons
None
Avoid this site at your own expense
Review about MarryMeSugardaddyMarrymesugardaddy site is a joke. Rich people just sit back and read emails with no intention of meeting and waste of time. Its ridiculous that suarbaby has to pay using the site.
This site should list prices on faq instead of signup.
Pros
Easy profile to setup
Search friendly
Cons
Waste of time and money
When I reply back to men's emails, I don't hear back from them.
Men just look at pictures with no intentions of meeting
Not disclosing fees at the beginning of the page
You have to pay to read messages
Too many Ims popping out when I was signing up
Overcharges and don't use your credit(get a prepaid credit card)
Cannot send ims stating review profile
Unwanted Ims from homosexuals contacting straight person
Jerks
Ashley Madison is the real deal...
Review about Ashley Madisonas I have been on and off of it for the last few years. There are absolutley more women then men by a large ratio but if you work hard, write a decent profile, post some good pictures you can and will meet women. I have met several over the years and have had a great time.
Have also tried AFF and Fling with very poor results. AFF is great if you are a couple or single woman as it has evolved into almost exclusively a swinger site. Fling.com has been worthless, lots of fakes with attractive photos, lots of not so attractive women that appear to be real.
AM has plenty of hot women, is discreet and absolutely works!
Pros
Lots of attractive women looking to have fun. The key concept allows privacy for both the women and men to share pictures.
Cons
The ratio is of men to women is the typcial adult dating 10 to 1 so you need to have some game!
You get what you pay for.Nothing.
Review about Smoochsmooch.com is just another dead end scammer site.Don't wast your time.
Pros
None
Cons
Waste of time.
Our Time Disappointing -- borderline Absurd
Review about OurTimeThe home page and advertisements for Our Time in NO WAY depict what's really going on here. They definitely use models for ads because the men who contacted me were, as someone else put it in their review, Walmart, truck driving, beer drinking, no sleeves material. Barely a professional in the bunch; which seems very very odd. Also, they seem to "switch cities" on you. One hopeful's profile said he was from New Jersey then, as soon as I said Los Angeles, I noticed his switched to LA. Is there a bait & switch going on here? This is a sad, sad site which, once again, plays on people's vulnerability and hope of finding someone in their own age group. Really too bad. Actually, just awful.
Pros
Not Much
Cons
Too Many
benaughty=be aware
Review about BeNaughtyTotal scam,almost impossible to cancel repeat billing,you have to skype them,and they w'ont do it..
All girls and woman contacting you are fakes,they are posting from another time zone,an island in the bahamas or Jamaica,I tested all mail with this question: What is your favorite pet? not one answers,they just keep on replying with bots.
They should be sued for breach of contracts,and everything in the kitchen sink.
avoid at all cost.
Pros
no pros it is a scam
Cons
everything ad about the WWW is in there.
Fraudulent Con Job by JapanCupid / JapanStupid
Review about JapanCupid.comThe site is nothing but a big rip off. Payed for the premium service and got nothing, not one bloody response. I even clicked on just about ever person on the site, even those I wouldn't normally be interested in. What struck me as bizarre, was the number of woman that claimed to have degrees. Anyone that claims to have met some one is either talking out their arse or is on the scam.
Pros
Got to know what it feels like to throw money down the shitter.
Cons
Everything, it's a scam and a con. Buy a lottery ticket instead you'll have better odds of hooking up with the lotto girl than meeting anyone at JapanStupid.
Just beware!!!!
Review about Ashley MadisonI've just changed this review to travel at your own risk.You have to pay to really find out what this site is about.
Pros
Don't know!
Cons
Don't know.
This site is the real deal
Review about Ashley MadisonI have seen lots of scams that prey on men who are either lonely or frustrated in the marriage, but Ashley Madison is the real deal. I have been using it for almost 18 months, and I have had three lengthy affairs with beautiful women in my age category (34 - 50), and have had a dozen other dates, one night stands and sexual encounters. There are a good number of fake profiles that pop up, but they are both obvious and not tolerated - they are taken down usually within a day. I have also used the site in London and Sydney, Australia via their Traveling Man feature, which lets you send multiple messages in a single, cost effective way. There are also escorts and women looking for sugar daddies, but all in all the site is real, with real women looking for real affairs. I am deeply grateful for AM and a huge proponent! Thanks AM!
Pros
- Lots of real women looking for real affairs
- Do not tolerate fake profiles
- Wide variety of women
- Traveling Man feature lets you seek an affair while on business travel
- Global
Cons
- Expensive - but it works
What a joke
Review about Marital Affair.co.ukWhat a joke, I am guessing this site is owned by some Nigerian Prince! It's that much of a scam. I paid for membership and had my card cloned and am now trying to claim back thousands of pounds.
Do not use this site, it will take all your money!
Pros
Non
Cons
A great way to get ripped off!
About the sirte itelf
Review about Iranian PersonalsOthers have talked about the quality of the people on this site. Lots of weird people here? Absolutely! I will tell you a little bit about the site itself. This site recently got a facelift. Unfortunately it looks like the facelift was done by one of those cheap Persian doctors with no plastic surgery experience!! You know what I mean! I am sure you have seen all those Persian nose jobs that look like someone is pinching the nose, not to mention the nostrils you can see all the way!!
The site was probably purchased by a larger company. The quality dropped drastically. I am not sure the people behind it are even Persian any more. The site is often down. Images do not load; or they are cutoff. Links do not work. Evidently, they could not care less. Searching is frustrating. The sites design is not user-friendly at all. Customer service is a big zero.
Online dating is big these days. However, for the Persian community in the US, there is nothing that is worthwhile. Hopefully someone will come up with something with a little more substance to it.
I've had a lot of luck with Afroromance
Review about AfroRomanceI found this to be a great way to meet people who want to date out - I've met several quality local women on this site, and have being seeing somebody seriously for almost a year. There are some scammers, but they are pretty easy to spot/ignore/block.
Pros
Good search features. You can respond to messages on a free membership.
Cons
Not many - A nit-pick is that the photo <next><prev> buttons are small and a pain to use - other sites offer easier navigation. The 'height' section is grouped by ranges such as - 5'7 to 6'0 - not much help if he's 5'9 and left wondering if she's 5'7 or 5'11;
What a scam - criminal - poice or regulator should investigate
Review about Marital Affair.co.ukI paid up for one month £29.99 and found that I got charged £89.99 for six months contract. Unless I pressed the wrong button , I have had money illegally taken. I will call on Monday to see if I can get some money back as they are shut in the weekend.
Generally I feel a right fool. All those messages sent before I joined where all pretty much dead ends and probably done by insiders. I feel like right d**k for falling for the inticement. Since being a paid member I have just had more time wasting and fake emails.
These criminal are getting away with this and the law has to come in for these sites. There are too many of them. Please don't waste money. Stay away.
Pros
Nothing!
Cons
Scam, illegal , criminal
It Takes Two Paid Memberships to Connect One Couple Together
Review about ChristianMingleI found ChristianMingle to hide the bottom line about costs and process until the person is signed up and has built a profile. They do not reveal their process up front, but as a Christian, I see this as divisive. I had to send multiple e-mails to support to get answers to my questions and they take many, many days to reply.
First, I discovered that both parties must have 'paid' subscriptions in order to exchange information. Second, I found that nowhere on a profile does it indicate whether a person is a paid member or not; so its a guessing game. For example, if I want to converse with Jane Doe, I have to pay for a membership and then send an e-mail. Okay, thats fine; I have no problem with that. If Jane Doe is a paid member, she can read my message. However, if she is not a paid member, then Jane Doe must also pay to be a member just to read my message. Therefore, ChristianMingle is getting paid double to connect me to one person. Therefore, what am I paying for exactly? Paying to have an e-mail sent into a holding status? There's not much incentive here. I have a problem with double dipping; especially when a month subscription is as much as other dating websites, but remember, there must be two paid memberships to connect one couple togetherbut not the case with other dating websites.
Pros
A great way to read the profiles of other Christians and find out what they say about their relationship with God; after all, the word 'Christian' these days is a vague term.
Cons
They are not upfront about their fees and processes.
It takes two paid memberships to connect one couple together.
Their monthly subscription rate is high considering they require two memberships to connect one couple together.